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Bar Flower: My Decadently Destructive Days and Nights as a Tokyo Nightclub Hostess

Bar Flower: My Decadently Destructive Days and Nights as a Tokyo Nightclub Hostess
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Manufacturer: St. Martin's Press

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Binding: Hardcover
Dewey Decimal Number: 362.292092
EAN: 9780312368975
ISBN: 0312368976
Label: St. Martin's Press
Manufacturer: St. Martin's Press
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 352
Publication Date: 2008-04-15
Publisher: St. Martin's Press
Release Date: 2008-04-15
Studio: St. Martin's Press

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Editorial Reviews:

During daylight hours, the city of Tokyo is the very image of robotic conformity. At night, however, it transforms into a “floating world” of escapism, as “all-work” salarymen seek a place to play. 



Though fascinated by Japanese language and culture, American Lea Jacobson had some difficulty conforming to Japan’s rigidly structured society. After she was fired from her job as an English teacher, Lea found work as a nightclub hostess on Tokyo’s Ginza strip and transformed herself into a doll-like confection whose job it was to flatter, flirt, and engage in mock relationships with her middle-aged clients. Working as a hostess—the occupation a direct descendant of the geisha tradition—quickly became lucrative...and addictive.



Her perceptions distorted by the drinks she was paid to consume, her identity confused by the fake personalities she assumed nightly, Jacobson began to lose herself in this fantasy culture.  As she descended into self-abuse and alcoholism, she found that the seductive lifestyle she loved so much seemed impossible to escape.



Jacobson’s searing insights into Japan’s cultural dynamics, erotic fascinations, gender politics, and her own spiral into sensory excess create a haunting and mesmerizing memoir that will leave readers transfixed.




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Summary: Boring but thankfully short
Comment: Wow. This book was pretty bad in my opinion. Reading it was painful because of the author's own comments on strung together observations. I had picked up this book in Penn station in NY thinking of getting something to read on the train and instead I opted to just fall asleep. The author writes about an incident where she's a nanny having a tea party and she draws the conclusion herself that she is in fact alice tumbling down a rabbit hole. Come on, really? The author is pretentious and exaggerates facts to fit the story, as also written by another reviewer on amazon. The book is boring and written poorly, it sounds like the author should go back to being a hostess because being a writer doesn't seem to be working out too well.

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Summary: questionable details and bad editing
Comment: Survivor first aired in on May 31, 2000. Lea Jacobson first went to Japan in 2003. Why is this significant? In the book, Lea's mom tells her that life is not an episode of Survivor. Lea claims to not know what she's talking about. I have a hard time believing that she really hadn't heard of Survivor since at least two seasons had aired on North American television before she even set foot in Japan and it was a huge phenomenon. Having been in Japan at that time, even I had heard of Survivor. If you picked up a newspaper or magazine there was something about Survivor in it. You had to have been living under a rock to not have at least known what it was - even someone living in Montreal. She claims that upon returning to the States, she had to be told what C.S.I. stood for. That show first aired on October 6th, 2000, nearly three years before Lea set foot in Japan. These may be minor errors and maybe she was just never a big television fan. More likely she tried using her supposed lack of knowledge about those shows to emphasize how immersed in Japan and how out of touch with America she'd been but the devil is in the details and if she'd "misrepresent the truth" about television shows it made me wonder what else she'd "misrepresent". The club she mentions early on is actually called One-Eyed Jacks not One-Eyed Zacks. It's a big club and advertises in a free, English magazine popular among foreigners living in Tokyo. Additionally, there is no shinkansen (bullet train) to Kamakura station. Ms. Jacobson could have used a better editor and fact checker. The book itself is passably interesting but doesn't add much to the "misspent youth" type memoir of which there are many and many better ones. If you have an interest in the world Japanese floating world you may find some appeal in this book but otherwise I'd recommend something by Liza Dalby who trained as a geisha and writes with far more skill and without sensationalizing things.

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Summary: Heartbreaking
Comment: In Bar Flower: My Decadently Destructive Days and Nights as a Tokyo Nightclub Hostess, Lea Jacobson recounts the roughly two years she spent as a nightclub hostess in Tokyo's Ginza district.

After she went to Japan in 2003 to work as an English teacher, Jacobson was fired from her job after a psychiatrist spilled the beans to her employer about her fragile emotional condition. She then went to Tokyo, where she began work as a hostess, entertaining Japanese "sararimen," even though she was psychologically unwell. Jacobson describes the underbelly of Tokyo culture as being in a "floating world," where everything is fluid and nothing stays constant for very long. Along the way, we're introduced to a variety of interesting characters, including a dragon-like mama-san, an Irish boyfriend named Nigel, who lies to her; and a four-year-old girl who learned perfect English entirely from Disney movies.

Jacobson's knowledge of Japanese culture is spot-on. She details her drug addiction without feeling sorry for herself, and even though you don't want to watch her spin out of control, you do, because her story is heartbreaking. But Jacobson learns a valuable lesson from her mistakes, and she does a wonderful job of analyzing, not rationalizing, her decisions.


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Summary: One of a kind
Comment: Just finished the book. I picked it up in the first place because I was on a quest to read everything ever written about hostessing; this book was by far the best source of information and insight into the floating world.

The author's writing style is neither too much nor too little. I could imagine how a book about a hostessing could get messy with lots of flowery detail and description, but Jacobson maintains a great balance. I appreciated her metaphors and anecdotes, and found that her analysis of herself and other characters was sensible and interesting.

Strongly recommended to anyone with interest in the subject. Hard to put down and no boring moments!

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Summary: A Life in tokyo
Comment: Lea Jacobson's memoir is subtitled " My Decadently Destructive Days and Nights as a Tokyo Nightclub Hostess."


I'm a sucker for a good memoir and this one sounded really interesting.
Jacobson is an American fascinated with Japanese culture and language. Her studies have made her quite proficient in the language, so she accepts a teaching position in Japan. Her visa is good for two years.
Learning the culture through a book and experiencing it firsthand are two different things though. Jacobson has difficulty accepting the rigid standards and structures of Japanese society. She is fired from her teaching position and begins to drift.


She ends up hostessing in a Tokyo nightclub. I think like most people I had some preconceived notions as to what hostessing entailed. Jacobson gives a detailed account of this profession. In fact her memoir reads as a diary, detailing friends, encounters and thoughts. We are offered a fascinating glimpse into Japan from someone living fully immersed in the culture.

This immersion begins to take it's toll on Jacobson. She descends into alcoholism and self harm in many forms. She realizes she needs out and returns to the US, but is just as disillusioned there, and returns to Japan.


Jacobson ends her book with the Japanese saying" Fall over seven times, wake up eight." She manages to pull it together. I found myself wanting a bit more concrete detail from the epilogue, but found her blog which ties up things a bit more.



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